We girls grow up with a myth that basically ruined us for life. We’re taught that when a man is mean to you, it is an indication that he likes you. HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU solves the mystery and forces us to face the cold hard truth: He is just not that into you!
Remember the days before caller ID was invented? We used to pick up the phone because it rang. Now we look at the screen and determine whether we’ll answer it depending on Caller ID. When did we become so estranged from others?
So what is really the problem when there are tons of great single men & women still searching for THE ONE? Obviously men don’t know what women want and women read into everything that men do as signs. If you agree then HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU might enlighten you in more ways than one!
All the dos and don’ts in dating can be tricky. Women drive themselves crazy with every possible scenario. If he’s not calling you…if he’s not marrying you…if he’s not sleeping with you…if he’s sleeping with other women…
Even though there are such things as rules to dating 101. However, when the feelings are right anything is possible. In other words, THE ONE is the exception to the rules. On the other hand some may ask: what kind of feelings exactly are you talking about? Unfortunately no words can describe it and only you’ll know when that feeling hits you. And may I add that the feeling does fade since most people can’t differentiate from love and lust. So you have an affair with a married man. Just because he’s sleeping with you and has zero sex with his wife it doesn’t mean that he’s going to leave his wife or he loves you more. He probably is still in love with her but just lusting after you.
Dating is complicated. You fall in love with someone who treats you like a friend. And that person is crazy about someone else who’s married. You wonder what you did wrong or what you didn’t do. It’s not about you. It’s just not meant to be. Love works in a mysterious way. You’ll have to keep trying until you get it right. In the meantime keep your head high and utilize the time to get to know yourself better. Once you learn to love yourself someone will love you back.
I have a girlfriend who is aiming to become an Olympic hopeful in decathlon. For the last 10 years she really put herself out there. She may not know herself well enough but she’s clear on her lifetime mission. And that is TO GET MARRIED, HAVE KIDS AND LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER. She feels that her life will be complete if she can accomplish this mission.
She doesn’t really know what kind of man turns her on but she is very specific about the pre-requisites: Educated abroad, sporty, English speaking with U.S. passport (1st preference) or Canadian passport (2nd).
She doesn’t know what she likes to do but she’s eager to learn what they are into. The first guy she fell for was into surfing. So she picked up surfing. The second guy loved snowboarding. So she braved herself in the snow. The third guy was a golfer. So she would drink all night and then head to tee off before dawn. The fourth guy went on a detox program for one week. So she fed herself only certain fruit and juice all week long. When asked why she did what she did, “it’s fun,” said my very clueless friend. She can name all the things that men like to do but she fails to do so for herself.
The moral of the story is that love can be closer than you think. And you should keep an open mind because you never know when love is going to knock on your door. It takes two to tango. Just because you two don’t click it doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you. It’s an issue of chemistry! There is no right or wrong in love. Most importantly you cannot force love onto yourself or others. When it fits it’s a match made in heaven; if not you’ll get to experience firsthand what it’s like to be in hell!
