In my 20s, I'd envisaged myself to be married by the time I entered my 30s. Next month I will turn 32 and I'm still one fabulous single lady!
So, I'm thinking...how come no one has proposed to me yet?
One boyfriend said, "I really didn’t think I was marriage material for you. I mean I know we are crazy about each other but your husband expectations are so high. Can I live up to you?"
Hmm. My expectations are high?! That's news to me. I don't recall making a list of qualifications for my ideal husband. If there's a list out there, I don't remember writing it.
Now what's intriguing about it is the phrase "marriage material". My question is "What makes someone marriage material?"
If a woman is domesticated, does that make her marriage material? Traditionally a woman is considered "marriage material" when she is able or willing to take care of cleaning, cooking and other jobs in the house, and to look after children if she has any.
Then what makes a man marriage material? Is it wealth? Or his ability to be the sole breadwinner in the family?
Recently I tried to fix up my petite friend V with a wonderful guy friend T. For a woman as smart and adorable as V, I don't understand why she would think that someone like T is out of her league. That's CRAZY! If they hook up, I swear...they will be THE COUPLE - a match made in heaven! Matchmaking is not one of my hobbies. But I have a hunch that they will be great together if V can forego the silly idea that she's not up to T's caliber.
In real life marriage, do couples worry about living up to each other's expectations and standards?
In all of my relationships, I don't ever worry about not being good enough for my other half. Perhaps that comes from the self-confidence I've always had since I was little. I know I'm just that good. It may sound conceited but I've told quite a few of my ex-boyfriends that "I'm the best thing that's ever happened to you!" And they agree with me =)
The hardest thing in any relationship is to BE YOURSELF. No holding back at all. Let yourself free. Most people put on their best behaviors in the beginning of the dating period. Once the novelty wears off, all hell breaks loose.
If you possess the ability to love and to be loved, then you're marriage material to me. And you will get brownie points for loving me for who I am!
