On the day of my 31st birthday (this past November 1st), I received an Email from my ex-boyfriend JC who has always kept in touch with me. We broke up in December 2001 just before Christmas. The Email says:
Hey, sorry for not writing back in a while. Something REALLY BIG had come up. It's difficult to explain, and it's difficult to deal with. Regardless, I'd better bite it and deal with it. I had promised my girlfriend today that I wouldn't write or contact you anymore. It's a part of a plea bargain, and it's something I have to do.
Please understand. I imagine that she would also Email you to tell you about the above . . Marking her territory or just to make sure you know what's up. If you get email from her, please reply and let her know that I had Emailed you, it was the last mail, and I won't be writing or calling you anymore. This would greatly help me out in dealing with the situation. Thanks & best of luck with your new job :)
Isn't this messed up or what?! Sure, I understand. I'm a bargaining chip in JC's relationship. I don't need to be involved in melodrama or other people's business on my birthday! This makes me wonder if it was a total mistake to be friends with him after we split up. I'm quite upset with the fact that he had the nerve to ask me to reply to his girlfriend as a confirmation that our friendship will no longer exist. Why should I help him out when I'm not even considered a friend?!
When my best friend Jesse came to visit me about a month ago, I told him about this screw-up Email.
Jesse says, "I don't know why you even bother being friends with him after what he did to you. Did you pity him? I despise him. You should never waste your time on someone like him!"
The truth is that I did pity him. He seems so unhappy with his relationship and our friendship has a cheering effect on him. However, I am not so sure if I know him anymore after this Email.
Good luck to JC! I'm gonna have to write him off. I expected a closure three years ago and now I finally got it! There are people on earth who just don't deserve my TLC and sincere friendship.
My other ex-boyfriends don't seem to have issues with their friendship with me. Therefore, I know that this is entirely JC's problem, not mine!
