This is not a Dear Abby or Dear Ann column but I would love to start one! My friends say the funniest things to me and often seek advice and from time to time, they like to throw me a curve ball. Even though none of it is my business, I cannot seem to keep quiet and just have to put my two cents worth in!
Question #1: I heard that you got a webcam recently. Got an idea for ya! You have all the equipment to become one of those 24 hour broadcast webcam girls on the internet. Now you can make money on the side getting people (that is, men) to subscribe to your site.
Answer: Haha. Thanks for the idea. I don't think I'll be stripping on my webcam anytime soon. I will let you know when I decide to let it all hang out and appear online in my birthday suit. Who wants to see me naked aside from those who already did?!
However, I heard the most profitable porn sites are the ones catering to gay men and lesbians. That is where the money is at – worth looking into! Maybe I’ll buy you a webcam for your next birthday. What do ya think, partner?
Question #2: My girlfriend is away for a few days while visiting her family in the East Coast. I have not missed her that much. Is it that bad?
Answer: There is nothing wrong if you don’t miss her a bit. Not even a teeny-tiny bit? I promise not to tell her! Haha! Hmmm, that is perfectly okay. You do not miss her and that is the fact. Who knows? Maybe she does not miss you either.
Perhaps you two have been spending too much together. Her leave of absence was timely since you needed a break and some time to yourself.
The least you can do is to think of her when you’re playing with yourself!
Question #3: I notice that among the young Asian American women nowadays, they smile, fake, and pretend that they are interested and it is a hoax. Why is that?
Answer: The Asian chicks cannot reject men directly because it is considered ‘RUDE’ in the Asian culture. They were taught to respect any male elders, their father and brothers no matter what. As a result, they developed this inferior mentality toward men.
When chicks don’t respond to your enthusiasm, the last thing you want to do is to beat yourself up over it. A chick who doesn’t reciprocate to your TLC, she is a lost cause. Why lose sleep over a fish when you live in the ocean?
Do you prefer women who tell you to ‘Take a Hike’ or “Get Lost” when they are not even remotely interested in you? Usually you can tell from their voice if they are into you or not upon first meeting. You can simply walk away when they don’t sound sincere.
Question #4: Last night my girlfriend and I got together, we did nothing in particular. She did not want to have sex. This morning she grabbed my balls and wanted to go at it. For the sake of not letting her control the pace of deeds, I refused despite being really horny. Is that terrible or a wise move?
Answer: Kudos to you and that is a wise move! You should not let your woman take control of all things. If she can say NO to you, SO CAN YOU. Most men have difficulties to turn women down for sex. Oftentimes, they want it more than their partners do. When it comes to relationship, many women place more importance in emotional bonding than sex. Nonetheless, what you did is truly a triumph for the male race!
Robin William once said, “God gave us a penis and a brain, but not enough blood to use both at once.” You just proved him wrong.
Keep up the good work and we are one-step closer to equality between men and women!
Question #5: I am dating a divorcee, he is perpetually late, and there is no sign of the situation will ever improve. Sometimes I feel that he does not take me seriously –I am just someone he happens to like and have fun with every so often. When do you know enough is enough?
Answer: I guess the way he acts would suggest that he is not so serious, all the showing up late and stuff. Perhaps the failure of his marriage played a part in the way he behaves, or causes him to be scared to get closer. After all, we all carry some relationship baggage and can’t seem to shake it off?
Only you can call the shot and put a stop on it. Listen to your heart and trust your intuition. You are the master of your life and you’d better start acting like one!
Question #6: I do not understand what women see in Hugh Grant. I remember he got into troubles while back. I am dating a woman who is infatuated with him. Despite being a movie star, why would he need to get a hooker!?
Answer: The British accent makes Grant adorable. I’ve always liked him. He has that boyish look that most women like and the accent just tops it off. Maybe the movie roles he portrayed on the silver screen created a false image and we women really have fallen for the movie characters. After all, most of us do not know him personally.
By the way, If you can’t seem to figure out what your woman wants, then get clues from her favorite romantic movies!
Hugh’s look combined with the sexy British accent and his impeccable movie appearance makes him attractive. However, like any movie icon, Hugh is in the past and he has gone with the wind as the 90s ended. Now we are infatuated with Jude Law.
Question #7: I met a woman on a streetcar in Boston last year. She was helpful when I asked her for directions. She is a single mom with a son in trouble. She gave me her card and we started exchanging Emails since. The other day, she mentioned an interest in moving to California and asked me to send major Californian newspapers to her. I don’t really know her and honestly, she is just an Email pal. So, should I send her the papers? Is it an unusual request?
Answer: Hell yah and who is this woman in Boston?! Has she ever heard of the INTERNET??? She can browse newspaper websites online if she is serious about finding out more about California. Maybe she is old-fashioned; there are people who prefer to read from the actual paper so they can get their hands dirty while flipping through the pages. Y’know, maybe she is not so bright or she has a thing for you?!
Question #8: My girlfriend has an incredible endurance for TV. She can stay on the couch for the whole weekend without leaving the house once. But I want to go out and do things on my days off. When she is over at my place, the TV is ALWAYS ON! HELP!
Answer: You should sign her up for the television marathon and see how long she can stay on the couch watching TV nonstop. If her super stamina for TV bothers you so much, you should tell her to go home and watch TV in her own space! On the other hand, you are in luck when the sports season begins. You two can watch all the games on TV together because she loves TV and you love sports!
Question #9: I don’t get it. This happens to me all the time! I think I am a decent woman but other women tend to find me as a threat for no obvious reason. Do I really look that threatening? What do I do that’s so threatening?!
Answer: Oh sweetie, it is perfectly all right. You have a lot of sex appeal, in person and even in photos; other women can find this threatening. It may be something that you are not even trying to do, but it comes across pretty strong.
After all, you and the rest of single women force are after one thing – A Prince Charming, someone who can sweep you off your feet. It is a competitive world out there. And it’s every woman for herself!
You should be happy about your sex appeal and just look at it as a God’s gift to you! Obviously, you were born with it. Therefore, you should use it toward your advantage. Be yourself and be proud of who you are, Sexy Mama!
Question #10: Is it wrong to ask your partner for honest inputs?
Answer: Absolutely not! In fact, honesty is the best policy! However, you should keep in mind that sometimes truth hurts. Be prepared for what you are about to hear and it is not always pleasant.
There are women who like to ask the meaningless question, “Do I look fat?” They expect to hear a positive answer regardless of their body shape. Everyone likes to receive compliments, reassurances, and validations from others. After all, it is human nature wanting to feel good about ourselves.
People tend to be more cynical and perhaps critical toward people who are the closest to them. When you offer a chance for your partner to be honest and candid, he is likely to disregard your feelings.
Every man has his quirks and twists. Just remember to keep an open mind. No one is perfect and neither are you!
Question #11: My history with women has been horrible. I guess I got self-esteem issues, I get very nervous around girls that I find attracted to and I tend to be attracted to girls that I feel are out of my league. I am embarrassed to say I have only one relationship ever.
Answer: Your somewhat low self-esteem keeps women at bay. I suggest that you should engage in social gatherings with your friends. Get yourself situated in a familiar setting will help overcome your fear for approaching women.
The number of relationship you’ve had does not make you a less worthy person. Relationship is all about timing. You have to be at the right time / right place with the right people in order for things to happen. It’s the Ying & Yang – cosmic balance works its magic, everything should fall into place.
It is never too late to start now! You have to fight your fear for rejection before going out to meet women. As a woman, I can tell you now that we do not like men with low self-confidence. Often it’s not about how men look. It is their poise! Good luck to you!
Question #12: I am very much a loner; I have a few close friends. I feel overwhelmed when I am involved in scenes that are more social and my insecurities tend to come out. I wish I were in a relationship right now, tired of feeling lonely all the time.
Answer: We came to this world alone and it’s interesting how many people are afraid of being alone. Being a loner is good but you have to know when to come out to play! Most modern relationships have codependent qualities because people do not know how to get along with themselves. Some are just afraid of being alone and they are on the lookout for companionship.
When you do not know what to do in your own time, you tend to look for relationship that can fill the void. Codependent relationship is likely to fail because there is a lack of independence.
All you need is a few good friends. Acquaintance, Mutual friends, and Partying Friends do not help you to become a better person. They are likely to stick around when you are in the golden age of your life. They are the kind of people who will come in and out of your life. Only your true friends will always be around – when you’re up and when you’re down.
In my opinion, it is best not to get involved in any romantic relationship until you are comfortable with yourself. Being alone and feeling lonely are not the same things. When you understand the differences between the two that is when you are ready to kick the demons in your insecurities issues. The world awaits you. See you soon!
Happy to see ya!
