My friend J called today. I haven't heard from him for weeks. Maybe months. The last time we met face-to-face was almost six months ago?! Damn! Time goes by fast!
He asked if I knew where to find the swingers in Taiwan. Obviously, he was't looking for the movie Swingers (1996), starring Vince Vaughn and Heather Graham.
"You know, there are Swingers Clubs everywhere - they're international!" he added.
It's funny that he brought up the subject of swingers. Recently, a friend in San Francisco told me about a woman he met online who happens to be a swinger. I asked him to connect us. Curiosity kills a cat. I had questions about swingers that I would like to pose to actual swingers. She agreed to answer them if I could send them in an Email.
Here's the Q & A:
Q: Are you and your partner both swingers?
A: We are both swingers, otherwise it wouldn't work. It would be an open relationship where we each do our own thing and that's not what swinging is about.
Q: Do you watch your partner doing someone else?
A: I watch him play with and have sex with others. Yes. We always play together and that means, we don't go off in separate rooms to play...we are almost always in the same room or within earshot or site of one another.
Q: Does that make you jealous or it actually turns you on?
A: Each step along the way has been an interesting experience. He was in a relationship prior to ours where he did this so for him, he could anticipate some of the feelings I would have or what challenges I might face. We communicate on such an intense level that there is always talking, talk about it. So the answer is no, I dont get jealous, I'm very turned on. We show off for each before, during and after. If ever something is done that creates bad feelings, like jealousy, we other...we look in each other's eyes or kiss each other at times when we are playing with or fucking someone else. It is highly erotic.
Q: Is there like a swingers club where people can seek out other interested parties?
A: There are clubs and parties. We host parties; we go to clubs and recently attended a lifestyle convention in Vegas w/ about 3000 members there. And there are sites where you can go to find what you are looking for. Everyone plays at a different level and to a different degree. There is something for everyone.
Q: When you have sex with other swingers, what goes through your mind? What's the satisfaction in it?
A: It's all highly erotic and sexy. I want to get off, I like to get others off....I love to watch him do the same...he's extremely hot and sexy and we are giving ourselves and sharing each other when we swing. The satisfaction partly lies in the fact that we are completely in love, have an amazing sex life, live out all our fantasies and then some...and get "strange" all at the same time.
It's fun. And it's social. We meet folks from all walks of life that we might not meet otherwise...very great opportunities. And we communicate way more than most might ever consider...we have nothing to hide so part of the satisfaction lies in not ever having secrets.
I have a friend who used to be a swinger. So was his wife. He told me that they had a lot of fun back in the days. Now I wonder if their "alternative lifestyle" had much to do with the failed marriage.
If you know anything about swingers clubs in Taiwan, please let me know. One very interested party is waiting to check it out! Maybe I'll go with him just to see it for myself. You have to try everything once in your life, right?
