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影評: 生日快樂 Happy Birthday

去年在大陸得到百花影后，綽號奶茶的劉若英的最新作品"生日快樂"是根據她寫的故事延伸出來的電影。不禁讓人好奇有多少是來自奶茶的個人經驗！她和古天樂在裡面演一對雖然相愛但是不知為什麼就是進不了禮堂。如果兩個人如此深愛對方，不是應該要有個圓滿的結局嗎？

這部電影好看的地方除了帥到無法用言語來形容的古天樂之外，就是它對於現代的愛情賦予最寫實的生命。Hollywood的愛情片希望你對愛情永遠充滿信心，所以常常安排個Happy Ending讓大家都開心。有多少愛情在來不及開花結果之前，就黯淡下來，不久之後就隨風而逝。沒有人知道為什麼會這樣，不管是發生在朋友身上或者自己經歷過，但是我們在生活中常常看到這樣的情形。這種無解又無奈的事久而久之就變的習以為常。

在我大學畢業之前，幾乎所有認識我的人都認定我會毫不猶豫的嫁給當時的猶太裔男友。連我自己都覺得應該是他沒錯！結果當我倆坐下來正視婚姻這件人生大事的時候，發現我們沒有那麼想結婚啊！雖然沒有成為夫妻，我們一直維持很好的關係。兩年前他終於在四十二歲完成他的終生大事。當他通知我的時候，我有點傻眼！我一直以為有一天等我們老了，終究會在一起。

就像小南對小米說："等沒有人要你的時候，我就娶妳！"

我一直單純的認為，我們的關係比好朋友還好，比愛人更相愛。沒想到一堂瑜伽課，讓他認識了現在的妻子。在一起不到三個月，以閃電不及掩耳的速度步入禮堂。

在還沒有確定我是不是沒有人要的時候，他先娶了別人。雖然有收到邀請，可是我沒有勇氣去參加喜酒。除了新娘不是我的滋味不好受之外，我擔心會一時興起，衝上去阻止他們說"I do!"

曾經有男性友人告訴我，男人娶回家的不見得都是他的最愛，但一定是適合當老婆的。所以我應該要當人家心中的最愛還是每晚抱著睡的阿那達？

"生日快樂"這部電影有個很耐人尋味的地方。小南雖然認定小米是他的女朋友，可是他身邊永遠有數不盡的女人圍繞著他，想盡辦法要得到他的寵愛。

這是一部很賺人熱淚的電影，尤其是單身女性看了大概會悲從中來！所以謹記在心，這就是電影嘛，不是你的真實人生，不用那麼認真，而且古天樂真的好帥好帥！

Always

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影評: Always 幸福的三丁目

如果我告訴你，有一部電影，會讓你感動到有種被幸福上身的感覺，你是否也想讓你麻木已久的心來嘗試這樣截然不同的幸福滋味？那麼你一定要去看"Always 幸福的三丁目"。

今晚在看完日本電影"Always 幸福的三丁目"之後，我有一種莫名的衝動，想大聲的哭出來，因為我的價值觀在今晚徹底的崩盤。

五十年前，人與人之間的互動是可以如此的單純，沒有心機；曾幾何時，我們的人際關係變得好複雜。當看到電影中的每一家都是大門敞開時，我心裡一直擔心著，不怕闖空門的嗎？一旦有詭異的人出現的時候，我沾沾自喜的想著：哈哈，被我料到了吧！結果根本不是那回事。可悲的是我們已經被訓練出有習慣性的自我保護心態，把陌生人都視為假想敵。

前幾天在我們住家大樓的電梯裡，一個西裝筆挺的陌生男子帶著害羞的口吻問我：小姐，請問這大樓裡是否有公廁？帶著不耐煩的態度，我脫口而出：怎麼會有？當我出了電梯，準備找鑰匙開門時，猛然發現電梯在快速下降當中。他陪我坐到我家這一層之後，就直下一樓。等我媽午睡醒來，我把這個有點莫名其妙的電梯之旅跟她分享之後，她嚇壞了！她認為對方是個闖空門的，剛才來探路。我媽迫不及待的打電話給在大陸的老爸，告訴他發生了什麼事。我長這麼大，這是我人生頭一回，我老爸奪命連環叩，告訴在戲院看電影的我馬上回家，因為他覺得我已經被盯上了，電梯怪客其實是在跟蹤我。

我一直在想，可不可以對這件事有個浪漫的想法。也許他在路上看到我，想來認識一下。一不小心，跟進了電梯（樓下的保全大叔，你眼睛瞎了嗎？居然讓他跟進來！) 本來想自我介紹，可是卻說不出口，只能想到問有沒有廁所。戴上大墨鏡的我，只顧著想回家，根本沒有注意到他居然沒有按任何的樓層鍵。

很多現代意外事故的造成都是起因於人與人之間的關係變得冷漠。但是我們的防人之心也抹殺了不少生活中的浪漫情懷。到底要如何取捨？這是一個無解的難題。

在物質缺乏的年代，家中能擁有電視一台電視是多麼的奢侈啊！這一台電視的責任很重大，因為整村的人把希望都寄託在這上頭。我們現在根本無法想像沒有冰箱的生活，Hell，我們已經被物質化到不能沒有手機的日子，更何況是一台冰箱。在七八年前，手機不也是個奢侈品嗎？

我還記得小學的時候，我從父親的手中拿到生平第一台隨身聽。現在已經忘記到底是我嚷著要買，還是父親想要給我一個驚喜。但是我永遠記得拿到菲利浦隨身聽時，心中那一份莫名的興奮雀躍。前幾年過生日時，我收到一台刻有我的名字的iPod，雖然我心存感激，但是卻少了當年菲利浦隨身聽帶給我的感動。

所以，我鼓勵你去看這一部電影，敞開你的心胸，等著讓幸福上身，體驗許久不見的感動，也讓你的價值觀重新受洗。

Don’t worry. It is a risk-free experience.

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Trust The Man 相信你的男人

Married folks tell me that marriage is overrated. My single friends complain that they can't find their Mr. Right / Mrs. Right to walk down the isle together. Everyone has a problem and it seems like no one is truly happy with their relation ship.

You know, grass is always greener on the other side. It's our human nature to bitch about what we don't have rather than to appreciate what we already had.

In this movie, Trust The Man, Rebecca (Julianne Moore) thinks that her husband Tom (David Duchovny) is a sex maniac while Tom simply explains it as "I like it."

Once a guy friend confessed that he loves sex so much that he drives his live-in girlfriend crazy. She almost kicked him out for his super active sex drive!

In the November issue of Marie Claire (Taiwan Edition), I read that 30% of women in Taiwan have sex less than once a week. So it's safe to assume that they probably get laid less than 52 times a year. In Taiwan the average number of sex per year is 88 times.

Here's some interesting data about sex:

In average, Greeks have sex 138 times a year as the most active in the world; Japanese has the least sex with only 46 times a year.

44% of the people in the world claim to be satisfied with their sex life. Belgium ranks #1 with 67% Belgians are happy with their sex life. China ranks the last on the list with only 22% satisfaction.

Often I hear from married women saying that their life is centered around their kids and they become almost non-interested in their husband. If that's the case, I can see how sex is literally non-existent in marriage. So, if your man cheats because you won't make love to him, can you really blame him? It takes two to tango!

My friend Douglas, who is single and more than a good catch, says that he loves sex but can't seem to find women who can separate sex and love. In his experience women tend to get head over heel after a night of steamy hot sex.

My friend James, who is also single and too good to be true, still sleeps with his ex-girlfriend whom he broke up with more than a year ago. When they're together, she's a control freak and often used sex as a tool to manipulate their relationship. Now there's no strings attached, she wants him more than ever. There are constant booty calls and sleepovers.

A few days ago someone asked me, "Why are you still single? What are you looking for in a man? Don't you know that no one is perfect and you'll have to learn to be more acceptive!"

Is that supposed to be a trick question? 'Cuz I'm not falling for it. Of course I know nobody is perfect and neither am I. Well, I'm still single because no one has the balls to marry me yet. As for what I'm looking for in a man, it's complicated. In all honesty, I see a little something I like in every eligible man in my life. True, I'm not ready to accept a package that comes with both the good and the bad.

After I saw "Trust the Man", I got a line stuck in my head. The psychiatrist says, "Have a little trust. The World is not against you."

Perhaps nowadays we don't trust people anymore. We see deception everywhere and have been deceived once too many. Ane we're used to put our guard up at all times and I'm no exception. So, let your hair down and learn to trust people around you. Maybe your search for true love will start to look up at last.

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Rocky Balboa: Okay, You Do Rock!

I must admit that I had zero expectation when I went to see "Rocky Balboa." My attitude was pretty much like, "okay, let's see if this one man can pull any new tricks." Wow, I actully like it and even shed a few drops of tears during the movie.

Some might call it a "Guy's flick" and my friend Mike complained that no chicks he knows had any interest in going to see this one. Girls, let me tell you. It will be unfair to classify it as a Guy's flick. You may be surprised what Rocky Balboa can do for you!

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You're an Idol.

You're an Artist.

You're a Best Friend.

You're a Good Listener.

You're a Bad Influence.

You're a Mentor.

You're an Inspiration.